Editor's note: this is an email to a friend of mine, who called me up yelling and screaming that I "support" gays because I oppose
an outright ban on gay adoptions. For the sake of anonymity, I'm redacting his email address and changing his name (and fixing minor spelling-type errors
that I discovered).
FYI: My friend and I are both against 'Same Sex Marriage,' and we both agree that, on average, gay adoptions are not as good as 'traditional,'
1-man-1-woman marriage parenting or adoption. However, support for an "outright ban" on 'Gay Adoptions' is very bad for no less than
three (3) reasons:
1) MORAL: As you can see below, some straights are perverts, and some gays are much safer adoptive parents, and insisting on opposing all gay
adoptions would necessarily yank some kids out of homes with safe (gay) parents and put them in homes with straight perverts, such as the British Swimming
Coach described below. (We know he was straight because he was married and had a child.) Placing children in unnecessary danger to "make a statement"
is morally wrong, sinful, and abhorrent to the conscience--on par with the senseless murders of both Jewish Germans during the Nazi-war era as well as
innocent, helpless babies who happen to live in a womb, but not outside of one--in the schemata whereby the rapist is not punished but the innocent child
who is in a womb, is punished. Backwards. Reprehensible. Abhorrent.
2) LEGAL: As shown in other research, alluded to here and cited right
here, an outright ban on gay adoptions would violate Equal Protection since
there is no similar ban on singles adopting.
3) PRACTICAL: As a practical matter, however, our quest to oppose 'Same Sex Marriage' is made infinitesimally HARDER when we are needlessly prejudiced,
bigoted, and hateful towards gays for no actual legitimate reason. (Put another way, it's loads easier to impose (or retain) an unpleasant, but
necessary, Same-Sex marriage ban on a group (gays), such as we do for other groups (polygamists, for example, who wish to have plural
marriages recognised by The State), when we don't kick sand in their face!
So, for all you right-wing nuts who insist on an outright ban on gay adoptions, I would remind you that thinking like yours is what resulted in
Annabelle Cripps (described below) to be allowed around --and be raped and sexually molested -- by some straight pervert, as opposed to a gay person, who,
in most (even if not all) cases, would NOT have raped her, simply based on a prejudiced stereotype of "lumping all gays" together and putting them in
the same basket. (PS: I'M a Morally and Fiscally Conservative 'right-wing' political and religious nut myself, as you probably know by now, so I
don't make that comment as an affront or an insult.)
Editor, Gordon W. Watts -- Tuesday, 02 June 2015
Lakeland, Fla., U.S.A. (between Tampa & Orlando)
I serve in the Chaplain's Office at Wheaton College. I also write and speak about all things sexuality, social justice, angst, and Christian hope.